Discover The Joys Of Being A Single Woman

singleWellness Tips For All The Single Ladies

“All the single ladies (All the single ladies)
All the single ladies
Now put your hands up

Up in the club, we just broke up
I’m doing my own little thing
You decided to dip but now you wanna trip…” (Beyoncé Knowles, Single Ladies)

Okay, fine you are not into clubbing, neither am I, but we are single and as Beyoncé continued in this extremely popular song, “I could care less what you think I need no permission, did I mention.” We need no permission to be who we want and how we want to be.

Tuesday is Wellness day here and in our afternoon post Contributor, Alexis Ali, will share a recent meeting with a friend and their conversation on being single and the unsolicited advice of well-meaning people about how to catch a man, get married and have babies.

I Am Single, Not Desperate

Why do people equate being single with being lonely, desperate and unhappy?

Single Women
50, Single and Loving It!

I have been single on and off for four or more years now and it has been the best relationship experience of my life!  Reading through the many articles on relationships and how to keep them, none of them applies to the one that I have enjoyed with me over these last few years. [tweetthis]Check out this blog post on being single and happy by Claudette/DOSF![/tweetthis]

Yes, were I to enter a more than “let us see how this goes,” stage of ‘being with someone’ into the “let us be officially known as a couple,” stage, these are some of the things that I would definitely need to repeatedly read and practice:

  1. A Bad Relationship Can Make You Gorge Yourself: This I know and worth reminding yourself especially if you are more interested in being by the refrigerator that by your mate when the lights go out.
  2. Are You In A Co-Dependent Relationship: 7 Flags To Watch For: I was in one for 16 years and did not know this until my second suicide attempt after it ended.
  3. The #1 Relationship Advice You Could Hear: This is my article but it is one of my best on relationships and what I have learned over my 4 years of being single.
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Being Single And Wellness

None of these suggested articles are meant to convince you of anything. Rather, they are chosen, and there are tons more where they came from, because they shed a very bright and important light on intimate relationships and how best to be in one.

Wellness is more than what you eat
Wellness is more than what you eat

Every human being deserves and have a right to be well. That is my firm belief having been unwell – physically, emotionally, mentally and spiritually – for much of my life. Wellness is more than a fit body and waking up to do meditations, chants and rubbing crystals. It is much more than having a great job that you love and having or pursuing further educational goals. Following a vegetarian or vegan diet will not guarantee your well-being. None of these things are possible, workable or will bear consistent results if your life is absent of a wholistic understanding and approach to wellness that includes your relationships.

For these reasons, on this blog we offer the “other” aspects to wellness – the sides you might overlook as you workout, eat your nuts and grains, make your big presentations and get another promotion, or take your children to school. Your relationships status in and of itself does not affect your wellness – not if you are confident in whatever stage of the “relationship game” you are at.

Getting Older And Still Single?

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Getting up there and single (Source: Oliver Li, Albumarium)

Being 30, 40 or even 50+ as I am approaching and single is not the end of the world and you are not alone, desperate or frigid. I can tell you that none of that is true of me and neither is it true of the women Hélène Tragos Stelian surveyed for her article: “8 Things Single Women Want Their Married Friends To Know.” Check it out here and see whether they are true for you, as a single woman, or whether you knew these things about your single women friends.

Be sure to check back later for Alexis’ article or better yet subscribe and receive updates in your inbox. Have you signed up yet for my FREE webinar, “A Practical Spirituality For The Busy Woman?” It is a 60-minute session on Sunday, August 30 when we will start a conversation about creating a spiritual practice – without the bells and whistles – for you the busy mother, spouse, career woman and community volunteer. Check it out and sign-up today! Space is limited.

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Do have a well rest of the day and catch you this afternoon.

Namaste

P.S. – Something to put a little pep in your step today!

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  6. Being singles has its perks. I was single for a long time too and I can understand how ladies feel when women around them aren’t single.

    1. Ms Claudette

      When i was in my twenties, even thirties – the single life held no appeal for me. Now, I am finding it a great challenge to consider living with someone! 🙂 My behaviour might not be conducive to a housemate! LOL

  7. I met my husband when I was 26 (which was old for my circle of friends and family.) but I am glad I waited.

    1. Ms Claudette

      Good for you – your wait obviously was worth it! 🙂

  8. My first time getting married was when I was 30. My family made me feel like I was weird for not being married sooner, and looking back, I feel like I got into that marriage to simply meet their expectations. Of course within 6 years I was single again. Some days were lonely being single, others were a lot of fun. And because I was single I was able to just pack up and travel for over a year on my own, which I loved. I remarried in 2008 🙂

    1. Ms Claudette

      Very belated congratulations! Let’s call the first marriage then being divorced the learning curve! Thanks for dropping by and sharing! Namaste 🙂

  9. My daughter has been single for a while now and she has learned a ton from it as well. She’s in a relationship again now and it’s very healthy!

    1. Ms Claudette

      Please pass on my congratulations and best wishes to her! Yes, being single for a while teaches us how to be in a relationship if we are open to the lessons – clearly she was. Namaste. 🙂

  10. I’ve been married for 20 years. I can’t imagine being single. I did find a few nuggets of wisdom to offer my daughter though.

    1. Ms Claudette

      I am sure you did – we mothers always have. 🙂

  11. Sound advice for single gals, Need to be comfy with your life.

    1. Ms Claudette

      Indeed you do – whether single or not single! thanks for stopping by! 🙂

  12. I have a lot of single friends and these tips will be very helpful. There are so many things that you can accomplish when you are single that can be difficult to do if you have a partner.

    1. Ms Claudette

      Please share with them and thank you for stopping by! And yes, we can accomplish so much when single – not to say that when you are not you become a slacker LOL. 🙂

  13. VICTORIA

    I have a friend who shares your sentiments… Im not sure how you will take this but I do recall a particular FRIENDS episode where Joey made “THE DEAL” with Phoebee (when they are both 30 and single they hook up)! Never fails to crack me up! but just sayin, it could be fun and its always never too late!=)

    1. Ms Claudette

      What I make of it is people do what makes them happy and if “hooking up” is it for some I am strict adherent of the MYOP philosophy. Am I into hooking up? No, not intentionally. It may happen that I meet/date someone for a period of time and then after Making “The Deal,” they or I “ghost” for whatever reason – that’s my version of hooking up! LOL Sex is not my priority. It is important in relationships – notice I say relationship not fly back connecting. Thanks for your comment, much appreciated.

  14. My suggestion : enjoy life while being single.. try new things, be adventurous..

    1. Ms Claudette

      Three very awesome suggestions that I am pursuing! Namaste! 🙂

  15. Elizabeth O.

    There are many things that we can accomplish while we’re single, and most single women fail to see that. It’s not always a bad thing. It’s also empowering.

    1. Ms Claudette

      You are so absolutely right!!! I am emphasizing that because I know that I have done so much more as a single woman – so much more that reflects who I truly am! Thanks for your comment!

  16. Personal well being should a priority for everyone but it’s a great reminder for us ladies who I think or more apt, in general, to give of our selves to an unhealthy level. Great tips!

    1. Ms Claudette

      Thank you for your comment and you are right – personal well being is a priority and each of us gets to define what “well” looks like for ourselves. Namaste. 🙂

  17. Beautiful tips. Thanks for sharing!

    1. Ms Claudette

      You are most welcome! Thanks for stopping by! 🙂

  18. I got married later in life, so I had many people questioning my singleness for a long time. I was absolutely fine by myself…and probably in better shape and health!

    1. Ms Claudette

      Would you believe that I told someone only this weekend who said he is on a diet that a relationship with me is not healthy because I tend to fatten my mates?! LOL. Thanks for dropping by and reminding me of the sweet laugh I had at that. 🙂 Namaste

  19. I am married now, but I enjoyed being single back in the day. I know some women like always having a man, but I was a-ok on my own 😉

    1. Ms Claudette

      Because you were confident in yourself! Thanks for stopping by! 🙂

  20. I am not single but I have friends who are. The healthy tips are good for all.

    1. Ms Claudette

      I think they are but glad that you confirmed! Namaste 🙂

  21. These are great tips! Even for us married ladies 🙂

    1. Ms Claudette

      Glad you appreciated them! 🙂

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