Before I Die: 5 Life Lessons For My Granddaughter

Mahalia, My Kitten

She is now only 14-months old – actually tomorrow, September 1, 2015 to be exact will be the 14th month since she made a premature entrance and turned all our worlds around.

No one would have convinced me that the day would come when I would be so in love with a grandchild. However, my Kitten, as I have called her since first seeing that ultrasound snapshot of her, has stolen, wrapped up and secured my heart.

Due to her young age and genius as she might seem to be, I am sure Kitten will not be reading this post for a while. So, I am depending on her mother to read it for her and later, remind her about it, when I have made my transition, so that she can find the link for herself.

Feeling Sentimental

Three things brought on this sentimentality. The first was seeing this video on Youtube – “If I Were A Young Woman Now.” Tears streamed down my face as I watched it and wiping them away I did two things. The first, I created a new webinar for young women under 35 years old to share with them some stories about when I was a young woman. My hope is that they will find something, even one thing to help make their walk that more interesting. The second thing was to start scribbling notes for this post.

Message For My Granddaughter

The second thing that prompted this Message For Kitten, was news of Dr. Wayne Dyer’s death. Not one to grieve about the transition of anyone because it is my view that there is no death, just a movement of energy, the news of Dr. Dyer’s passing jolted me just a bit. I never knew the man personally but his work and words touched my soul when Claudette was out of touch with Her.

While I am not grieving but celebrating that he was among us and taught all who wanted to learn his way and understanding of Life, his death reminded me that I too must continue to make my mess my message. Kindness they say begins at home so after my daughter, my kind sharing (LOL) must be to my granddaughter.

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life begins at 57
Life begins at 57 for some!
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My third reason for writing this post is something that I recently saw on Facebook. It was a photograph that very succinctly delivered another message ; “It ain’t over until the fat lady sings.” No offence meant to my beautifully curvy Sisters. The post reminded me that even at 50 and having not won the lottery – life is not over, all things are still possible. It was possible for Louise Hay, Colonel Sanders, Stephen Covey and others who did not become the public figures, millionaires and teachers that they turned out to be until 57+.

Life Lessons For Mahalia

So, now, here are my five life tips to my granddaughter:

  1. Accept and embrace the best education your parents can afford to pay for and then pay for some more from your own pocket. Go to every class, every course, every lesson that your brain can absorb. Take language classes, woodwork lessons, do art, learn to play an instrument, get voice training – do anything your heart calls you to! Never stop getting an education in anything!
  2. Eat all the delights and not so delightful that is put before you at least once. Find new foods, create your own recipes. Cook, cook and then cook some more! Invite friends over, go to their homes and “draw long bench” in the kitchens. The best conversations take place at the kitchen table!
  3. Date many people. Please do not marry too early. Date far and wide. Use condoms if you are going to have sex but date, date, date. Kiss many frogs. Chase butterflies with whomever your heart desires. Love wastefully my darling, only then you will find The One.
  4. Travel far and wide, as much as you can. Never be bounded by borders – not physical or mental ones. Jump in your car and drive to new places on lovely summer weekends. Take a train trip. Go for a boat ride as well. Visit Ghana – the land of your father’s birth. Dance to the beat of Reggae in the country of my birth and be sure to see the Ukraine where your mother made her entry. Fly baby girl!
  5. Love and support the women in your life and the ones you meet along the way. Learn about your Sisters in distant lands, listen to their stories and then share them. Actively support your women friends using your talents, your connection and most of all your heart!
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It Is A Wonderful, Crazy Life!

The tears are flowing as I type this – not out of sadness because I might not live to see my granddaughter follow my suggestions. I cry because I know she will grow into a most beautiful, vivacious and smart young woman who will make her mark on the world.

life goes on
And life goes on…

I cry because of the many young women, myself included, who do or did not have anyone to share their life lessons with them, helping them to create some worthy of passing on.

I cry because my Kitten and many girls will make their own mistakes and then have stories, become women with pasts, like I am, to share with their daughters and granddaughters.

What are you sharing with yours today?

Please leave 3-5 tips for your granddaughters or future granddaughters in the comment section below. Did you read our morning post on “Women Empowerment: The Cha-Cha-Cha?” As well, Subscribe and maybe 20 years from now, your granddaughter will receive updates from mine.






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  5. Beautiful post and wishes for your adorable granddaughter

    1. Ms Claudette

      Thank you very much on both counts! πŸ™‚

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  7. Your “kitten” is so lucky to be your granddaughter!
    I need to think a while about what my best tips would be, but off the top of my head, I would give the following advice:
    ~ always believe in yourself
    ~ give others the benefit of the doubt, be tolerant and keep an open mind
    and – of course –
    ~ make the most – – of every moment.
    Thanks for this thought-provoking post – and wishing your granddaughter every happiness in life.

    1. Ms Claudette

      Thank you, thank you and thank you! My hope is that one day she will see this and she will see what wise women’s company I keep! πŸ™‚ Namaste Susan

  8. Ashley

    Numbers 2 and 4, YES! I love trying new foods, even if I discover I hate them. And traveling is a MUST. A college study abroad program over years ago changed my life. SO worth it.

    1. Ms Claudette

      Glad you liked and agreed with those two! I love food and travel myself very much so! And both have most certainly broadened my horizons. Namaste πŸ™‚

  9. What beautiful things to leave behind for her in knowledge!

    1. Ms Claudette

      Thank you, I hope she thinks so too. πŸ™‚

  10. Your granddaughter is such a cutie. Love the advice you have for her.

    1. Ms Claudette

      Thank you very much on both counts. πŸ™‚

  11. I just want to spend fun times with my kids and let them be while they are still young. Life is too short. Let them fail and learn from their mistake and when they are adults they are wiser.

    1. Ms Claudette

      I could not agree with you more! πŸ™‚

  12. Rosey

    It is so important to love and support one another. Men seem to have it easier in that dept. than we do.

    1. Ms Claudette

      They too have their challenges but you are right, for some reason we women tend to compete more than we care to admit. πŸ™

  13. This is so beautiful and such great advice. I do hope you get to see your “Kitten” accomplish many of these things.

    1. Ms Claudette

      Thank you so very much! πŸ™‚

  14. Sometimes it does take a loss like this to put it into perspective and help us refocus on what’s important.

    1. Ms Claudette

      Indeed sometimes it does. Thank you for stopping by! πŸ™‚

  15. What a sweet thoughtful thing to write. I wonder what my grandma would tell me now, but thinking she would tell me to travel lots and be kind (as you mention).

    1. Ms Claudette

      Something tells me she would! πŸ™‚ Much blessings to you.

  16. These are beautiful life tips for your granddaughter. I love all of them and I agree about never stopping on getting an education in anything.

    1. Ms Claudette

      Thank you and yes, education is key. πŸ™‚

  17. leybainpublic

    Awesome blog post. Beautiful words indeed. πŸ™‚

    1. Ms Claudette

      Thank you! πŸ™‚

  18. Elizabeth O.

    Beautiful lessons for your grand daughter. I especially like number one, education is very important.

    1. Ms Claudette

      It is extremely important. Thanks for dropping by! πŸ™‚

  19. Kindness is definitely a beautiful message. Deeply saddened that Dr Wayne Dyer has moved on from this world, sure he has bigger things to take care of.

    1. Ms Claudette

      Yes, I am sure he is creating intentions elsewhere right now πŸ™‚

  20. You have to kiss a lot of frogs to find your prince πŸ™‚ Thats what my mom always told me!

    1. Ms Claudette

      She was so right your Mom! πŸ™‚

  21. I have told my granddaughter ti enjoy life. Experience all it offers.

    1. Ms Claudette

      Sound advice! πŸ™‚

  22. Great advice. Wonderful to share such great information with your granddaughter.

    1. Ms Claudette

      Thank you! πŸ™‚

  23. dltolley

    And the tears are streaming as I read this! Such wonderful, positive advice! All of the above. I would add: Be kind. That doesn’t mean let others walk over you. But don’t walk over them, either. Enjoy people. They really are an interesting bunch!

    1. Ms Claudette

      Thank you for that addition Diane! I will ensure her Mom add it to the list as from a very wise woman who she might have the chance to meet one day soon, after all we live in the same province!!! πŸ™‚

  24. sicorra

    Beautiful messages, as always! Your grand daughter is adorable, and I love her bike!

    1. Ms Claudette

      Thank you, thank and thank you as always! πŸ™‚

  25. I love to travel and try to take my kids as much as I can πŸ™‚

    1. Ms Claudette

      Great! I amsure they enjoy the trips! πŸ™‚

  26. I want to travel and eat delights. That would make me happy.

    1. Ms Claudette

      Go for it! πŸ™‚

  27. Robin Rue (@massholemommy)

    Yes, yes, yes! Travel as much as possible while you can!

    1. Ms Claudette

      I see I have a kindred spirit on that! πŸ™‚

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