Older Women – Every Young Man’s Dream
Okay, just so you know, I am happily married. That, however, does not mean that at some point in my life have not done what all men dream to do.
And what is that? Date older women – cougars as some refer to them.
Older women who date men younger than they are, are known as “cougars” in most social circles, and they are awesome! Cougar is a slang term that refers to a woman who seeks sexual relations with considerably younger men regardless of the age difference. These days the age gap in romantic liaisons is widely celebrated, dumping the common rule that it is only right to be interested in someone who is half your age, plus seven years.
Times Are Changing
While most women, if I were to guess, are naturally attracted to older men because they offer resources and stability, women who already have these for themselves are more interested in younger men. Some such women, offer these two – resources and stability – in return for certain commitments.
Online cougar dating platforms have made this an easy venture.
These days, many younger men crave the experience and wisdom that older women offer. While dating a younger man can be awkward for many older women, it is very liberating for younger men. Younger men love to explore, are highly energetic and love the maturity and sexual experience that comes with dating an older woman.
Easily bored by the everyday nuances of commonplace dating with women of their age, it is understandable why more and more younger men are gravitating towards older women for what they have to offer – materially and sexually. While some men condemn these older women/younger men relationships, most are embracing it in the society today as more and more women, both single and married, are finding fun in indulging in these connections with young, energetic men.
Commitment And Style Attractions
At the heart of cougar dating, let us call it, is the issue of commitment. Although everything appears to be working out fine between the younger man and older woman, many of these guys are not ready for commitment. Once their relationship with women of their own age or close, get to the “noose” point, they prefer to bow out of it and not commit themselves. Until that time or age arrives when they are ready to commit, they are mostly into relationships for fun, except a few exceptional cases whereby the feelings are real. That is where their connection and comfort with older women come into play.
For most cougars who have been in the game for long, they have discovered that with young men commitment is a sensitive issue and so long as getting them to make one is not on the agenda, then there is no problem and the relationship works for both sides.
Another consideration for some men from the get-go is the lady’s dressing. Guys who date older women seem to be attracted to the ones who dress to look younger. The more skimpy the outfit, the more exhilarating. On their part, men who date older women, tend to dress more conservatively, thinking that the women want them to look more responsible – which in most cases is true.
Most cougars are confident in their social and financial status and are aware of the appeal that both hold for younger men. They know that younger men might not be as financially buoyant as she is or men her age. She probably does not care about this so long as she is getting what she wants.
Here To Stay
Whatever your personal view of these relationships, the issues in them and the longevity of older women/younger men relationships, as time passes they will be more commonplace.
General acceptance of older women/younger men relationships might not be that far off as the current data shows that the number of relationships and marriages between older women and extremely younger men have been on a rapid increase, gaining more ground as the years go. The Internet has made it easier for them to find each other and the number of websites and online cougar dating platforms are definitely abundant and growing every day.
Robert lives in Georgia, and is a freelance writer. He enjoys a healthy debate as much as the next guy and writes short stories and inspirational books in his spare time. Robert brings to this blog a male perspective on issues related to and/or of concern to women around the world. Check out his most recent post on men and trust issues after a relationship ends.