How To Pick Your ‘AIM’ Team

Surround Yourself With Champions

People come into your life for a reason, season or a lifetime…”

“Don’t mix seasonal people with lifetime expectations.”

These are a couple advice offered to me and now I am passing on to you as part of my “Breaking Loose Series”. That series will soon be published in an eBook and made available to Subscribers only.

In the meantime, let this serve as a reminder that not everyone batting, catching or playing mid-field is meant to stay either in that position or on your team forever. As any good and experienced sporting coach will tell you, players get injured, complacent or simply cannot continue to meet the physical requirements of the game.

“Life Is A Game” And You Are The Captain

Make no mistake, this life that we are all living is a game – one in which we are all playing out our dreams, kicking around ideas with the intention of getting the big one, the winning one through the net of success. That net – success – is crafted and stitched from material that we each get to choose.

The millionaire life
The millionaire life

For some,  the material will come together as a pile of money, a huge house, cars and “a trailer load’ of girls. For others, it is being able to offer all the basic needs plus some for their family, including a reasonable roof over their heads, education, and annual vacations. Then there are those for whom success falls somewhere in the middle – some food, a clean bed and a pair of shoes to keep their feet protected

Whatever your measure of success, you are the head coach, the boss, the CEO – whatever title you prefer – of your life. You decide how the game is played and you select the players to go out on the field with and for you. And here is the cold, hard fact:

Sentiments and sympathy will not “win” you this game.

What Is The Game?

Before anyone takes offense to my chosen words, let me define and elaborate how they are used and understood in this context:

  • Game – daily living
  • Players – friends, family members, the “Influencers” in your life
  • Field – your scope of choices
  • Win – success according to your understanding

Often I have made reference to T.D. Jakes’ sermon about the three types of people in your life. Why? Well, he describes them very eloquently, if you can look beyond the “preacher man” performance. Watch:

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 Check Your Circle, Align The Centre

At the first publication of this article, I mentioned posting to my Facebook page a diagram about “The Circle of Five.” Since then, other descriptions and many articles have been published about the influence on your life that the five people closest to you have. “You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with,’ is one of the most simple ways that I have heard this said.

Just a few weeks ago my daughter and I did an inventory of our individual circles. Another way this has been said and one that had me in somewhat of a quandary rearranging my circle is that if you are the smartest in your circle, something has to change. By the time I was over, in my circle of six, including me, I was #5 on the smartness ladder. Since doing that, I have been stretched, dragged and pulled by my circle that includes my daughter and who, for your information, is above me to learn more about SEO, social media marketing, writing, management and – the big one – intimate relationships.

Source: lifehacker.com
Source: lifehacker.com

Now, I am offering you my combination of these two concepts as you set out to complete a review or performance evaluation, if you like, of your team or your circle.

The most important and fundamental thing to understand is that it all starts with You.

Tag, You’re It!

You are the visionary – the dreamer, the leader, the head cook and bottle washer of your life. It starts and ends with You. The “game” is played according to your choices or lack of choices. You select the players based on how you want to play the game. You decide which player remains on your team.

Once the vision is clear, refined and fine-tuned – and you do this every year, every month, every day through your vision boards, journals, meditation/spiritual exercises, etc – write your guidelines. These I prefer to call “Values for Living,” and they are those principles that will not change, they are who you are. Write them where you can see them every day. I have mine on my phone that is never far from my reach and as an example my Values For Living are: 

  • Love
  • Honesty
  • Trustworthiness
  • Loyalty
  • Faithfulness
  • Kindness
Check Your Players’ AIM

We all have a story for our lives, one that we edit, adapt and expand as we play this game. Knowing your story and ensuring that only you are holding the pen is critical.

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Check Your Team Members' AIM
Check Your Team Members’ AIM

The pages of this story is written every day. It is the daily walking of your vision, it is the game and you get to choose the players, companions and supporting actors. My suggestion is that each of these persons is chosen based on their:

Appreciation and understanding of your story

Interest, ability and willingness to support you moving your story to the next stage

Mission in their own lives

Basically, the A.I.M. of your team members will and ought to decide their season, reason or lifetime membership on your playing field.

For as long as their appreciation of you and your journey is well expressed and clear, they might remain on the team. This does not mean they are yes people. It simply means they love you enough to tell you the truth as they work side by side with you to correct the course.

If a team member’s interests change or dwindle; should they become unwilling or unable to continue catching your vision for the game, their season is over. No hard feelings necessary. It is simply time to move on.

Retire & Recruit
Retire & Recruit

Each of us has a mission for our lives and part of that includes being an active player or supporter on another person’s team. We are social beings and our natural instinct is to help another. For as long as that support is mutually beneficial, life-enhancing for both parties – game on! However, missions change, adjustments get made and what was once compatible evolve not necessarily into conflicting goals but are no longer viable. Do not hang on out of habit. Thank and bless the player. Retire their number and give them a golden handshake however that looks in your life. Then start recruiting.

There you have my 3-point strategy for playing your game. Evaluate your current team based on their A.I.M. and take your life to the next base.

Be blessed, be well and have a great game day!


This article was published on my former blog in March, 2015. It was adapted and updated for publication here. Subscribe and receive daily updates of posts by me and the team of Contributors to this blog. Be sure to check out this morning’s In The News feature, highlighting the “Top 3 Wellness Concerns For Mothers and Wanna-be Mothers” here.

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27 thoughts on “How To Pick Your ‘AIM’ Team

  1. […] your tenancy agreement and see what kind of roomers you have. Check your circles and make sure that your closest five are motivating you, pointing you to inner resources, and […]

  2. Very good advice. Wonderful outlook.

    1. Ms Claudette

      Thank you very much. 🙂

  3. I love your approach in life. I need to evaluate mine and take it to the next base.

    1. Ms Claudette

      Thank you. My “approach” comes after many mistakes and making a complete and utter “mess” of my life! LOL. Know it is my message. Namaste dear one and I am sure you will find your A.I.M. team.

  4. Elizabeth O.

    I agree that you are the boss. Whatever it is that we want to do and achieve will depend on how we will run our lives.

    1. Ms Claudette

      Indeed we are our own bosses. We might go to a paid job or share our personal journey with a matter but at the end of the day, only you (and me) will and can give account for how you lived this gift you were given. Live it well my dear. Namaste.

  5. Very interesting approach, esp when you look at all the components of the game. Thanks for showing how you use this in your own life.

    1. Ms Claudette

      Thank you and your are welcome, my pleasure and honour. 🙂

  6. Wow. This is a great approach to life. I’ve never quite heard it described like this before. Thanks for sharing AIM

    1. Ms Claudette

      Thank you! It’s my own mess that I have turned into a message and tools! 🙂

  7. it’s in our hands that we can do the things we wish to do, have a goal and make it work. people that shares the same interest do more

    1. Ms Claudette

      So true!

  8. This really puts things into perspective and makes me think of goals and plans.

    1. Ms Claudette

      I am glad that it helped. Namaste

  9. Michelle Hwee

    Love this so much! Especially the captain and life related one. 🙂

    1. Ms Claudette

      I am happy that you liked it! 🙂

  10. Great points. I need to refine my AIM team.

    1. Ms Claudette

      A daily task, I am constantly checking over my “players!” Namaste.

  11. There is an Italian saying and roughly translated it says, “The important thing is that the church stands, the priests they will come and go.” I find this so true when working on teams.

    1. Ms Claudette

      I have never heard that before but it is really deep and I like it! 🙂 Thanks

  12. What a great article! Thanks for all of the great advice 🙂

    1. Ms Claudette

      You are most welcome! Namaste 🙂

  13. Very interesting read and unique take on this subject!

    1. Ms Claudette

      Thank you. Your comment is much appreciated! :0

  14. This is a great way to approach life! I wish more folks used Values for Living these days.

    1. Ms Claudette

      Thank you for your kind comment! 🙂

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