“Compassion is a lifetime business. You can’t say something like, “I will have compassion on Monday, Thursdays and Fridays only. But for the rest, I will be cruel”. That is hypocrisy.” Israelmore Ayivor
Many entered the sanctuary today full of holiness and remained there for most of the day, enjoying the community and using the best church apps to share their thoughts and tithing. Come Monday, they will exit and at the gate pick up their basket full of judgement, criticism and hatred, peddling their wares all week. Until next Sunday when the charade begins again.
Churchgoing Women – Where Are You?
A churchgoing woman clearly I am not. There was a time when that would be a small minority – filled with charlatans, heretics and ladies of the night. Well, so the majority would have labelled us.
The number of non-churchgoing women is however growing. Once the pillars and salt of the Christian Church, women are choosing to be bystanders, watching as the parade goes by.
One of the several articles reviewed for this discussion was written by Sandra Crawford-Williamson, and she noted that in the United States “27% of professional Christian women are starting to choose to unplug from church all together.” She made a very interesting connection, one that has been reoccurring on this blog of late – the pocketbook power of women.
“80% of the time, women make the decision on whether a family attends church. This statistic is eerily familiar… this elusive consumer group [is] so critical to product companies… She also controls 80% of the household spending, including charitable giving. If the woman doesn’t get up on Sunday morning and get out the door, the odds are they stay home. Once they stay home one week, it is easier to do so the next week.”
Learning from Men or Awakening
The churchgoing habits of women for years now has been mimicking that of men. “Women used to put men to shame in terms of their orthodoxy of belief and the breadth and consistency of their religious behavior…No more; the religious gender gap has substantially closed.” Adelle M. Banks wrote an article for the Religion News Service back in 2011. She was quoting from the report of a survey carried out by the Barna Group that examined 20 years of church attendance.
The Barna Group report highlighted the fact that women are increasingly becoming “either less [engaged] in common religious behaviors or [shifting] in belief away from biblical teachings.” Their religious behaviors shifted with:
- Church attendance declining to 44% with a majority of women no longer attend church services during a typical week.
- Bible reading has plummeted by 10 percentage points, from half of women reading it to just four out of ten doing so today (40%).
- Sunday school involvement is less common
- A slide in the percentage of women helping out at a church. That drop reflects a 31% reduction in the non-paid female work force at churches.
- The only religious behavior that increased among women in the last 20 years was becoming unchurched. That rose a startling 17 percentage points – among the largest drops in church attachment identified in the research.
Why Are Women Leaving The Church?
Among the reasons women have given for their disinterest in dressing up and showing up in the pews on a Sunday nowadays include the Church’s continuing treating women as the problem:
- Women are unwelcome or unheard at important church meetings.
- Women are too often informed of – not asked – what their gifts are.
- Women are celebrated mainly in their roles as wives and mothers.
- The teachings that are geared toward women are watered-down versions of what is taught to men.
- The burden of purity is shouldered by the women.
Basically, a growing number of women, myself included do not see their lived realities reflected in the Church’s teachings. We no longer are willing to sit in the back, quietly and reverently as our person-hood and humanity are derided even subtly. In our daily lives, the majority of us are required to function at a high level of intelligence and it has become impossible for us to shut off our brain capacity come Sunday morning to be told who are what we are and are capable of being.
The intent here is not to generalize the church experience of women. As the data and information presented clearly shows – not all women are leaving the Christian church. However, if the church is to continue growing, thrive again, this is a segment of concern.
Share with me your experience with Church. Are you a churchgoing woman? How active are you or what made you decrease your attendance?
Is this an alternative or are we departing from our senses?
Recently, the Canada Supreme Court ruled that “medical marijuana patients should be able to consume marijuana as well use other extracts and derivatives.”
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This was good news for many but one group in the United States was way ahead of this Canadian ruling – The First Church of Cannabis. In May of this year, “this Indiana house of worship won the right to light up freely and spread its groovy gospel thanks to a newly awarded nonprofit designation from the Internal Revenue Service,” reported Michael Walsh of Yahoo News.
Everyone should be free to determine whether they will worship a deity, how and where. When it comes to cannabis, there are different ways this can be done, such as buying and using cbd honey sticks online. The question is – while the Rastafarians of my country of origin, Jamaica, popularized the smoking of ‘ganja’ – is this really a church or religious institution?
What do you think? Read the article and give me some feedback.
Sunday Dinner Movement
Times have changed and now many have the meal out of a box even!
There is a movement in the United States that is trying to turn back the clock and revitalize Sunday Dinner. As someone who still try to have a meal with my daughter – most often Sunday brunch – this idea appeals to me.
Do you have Sunday Dinner with your family and friends? If you do, enjoy today’s meal. If you are single, that is still no reason not to dress up and set the table for this special meal. Need some ideas? Check out the video below.
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